A couple of weeks back the crèche that my son attends held a carnival day at the local high school. I have to say that it was quite fun for Hubby Dearest and I but Lil Mister enjoyed the festivities the most. However, I came to realize something about my dear son that I wonder if other parents also battle with!
At school, at home, and when we go to a friends house Lil Mister is extremely social! He runs around, disobeying every command in true toddler fashion. He jumps, climbs, and laughs. He is happy to show off and express his many talents (boat noises, cow noises and other of the like.) We are often sporting goofy smiles as we gleam in the light of our clever and outgoing son!
So when the opportunity came about to spend a Saturday afternoon exhausting our Lil Mister in jumping castles and sporting games all while surrounded by lekka food, clowns, and tons of friends we jumped without hesitation! When we arrived the friends were already spread out and enjoying themselves with absolute fullness. Lil Mister of course took off in a full sprint held on to Daddy for dear life as we headed towards the action! Every time Hubby Dearest tried to put Lil Mister down to do something we were met with fierce refusal and forcible clinging! Where was our social able and fun loving little boy??
I still cannot understand this. Never have we been concerned about taking Lil Mister out of his environment. Last month when we made the trip to the Free State you’d have thought Lil Mister had known these people since the day he was born! He ran around their houses, played with their toys and willingly gave hugs and kisses. He was not phased in the slightest as we ploughed from one old friend to the next. How is it, then, in a place designed to be a kid inspired heaven with color, jumping, running, balls, ice cream, candy, and friends was he trying to simultaneously choke his father while burying his face?
So, in true excellent desperate Mommy style, I suggested sugar loaded treats to obtain some energy and willingness! Oh what a great Mommy! ;-) It started to change his mood a little bit. He picked out an apple sucker which landed on the ground more than in his mouth and a car filled with little sweets that I can’t imagine are any good other than that a child knows it’s candy! We at least got him looking around a bit!
Then it happened! What I actually least expected (or never considered) but should have known all along! He found a friend…a girlfriend of sorts! We located the stand that his school had set up. There he first saw his teacher! This woman has been his caregiver since he was 6 months old when I furiously ripped him from the school he had been in to obtain a loving place in her home! (A story for an aggressive day!) She has been a savior to us and him at times! When he was sick he would still willingly go to her. When he was hospitalized, she messaged everyday to see how we were. She was one of the first to know he was going to be a big brother! And when she closed her daycare in her home to move to a crèche, Lil Mister was the first signed up to follow. She knows as much about his likes and dislikes as any of us and was even in tears as she witnessed his first steps!
What I had not accounted for was that her daughter who is a little less than a year older that Lil Mister has also been a constant in his life! Apparently they have befriended each other in a most adorable fashion and tend to be quite caring. Lil Sweetie shares with Lil Mister, involves him in all games, and is the first to great him in the mornings at school! So they were quite content to play in the pool (actually intended for a fishing game) as to join the others in various activities!
Mommy and Hubby Dearest breathe a sigh of relief as we can finally enjoy a cold Coke and relax at the knowledge we aren’t torturing our son by forcing what should be extravagant toddler activities down his throat!